How Can I Find My Patron Goddess?
This week Brian writes to me asking:
Brian this can be very daunting; trying to figure it all out. When I first started out on my wiccan path, I had little to no idea who I wanted to work with when it came to Gods or Goddesses! I was always drawn to the Egyptian pantheon. I worked a little with Ra & Isis; but it just never felt completely right to me. For a while I worked with just Goddess; i didn't put a name to her.
This is a difficult question to answer completely because I often equate religion to falling in love. We all have an idea of who we think someone would be good with but at the end of the day it's the chemistry between two people that brings them together. It's the chemistry you feel between a particular God or Goddess that is going to really decide.
A couple things that I have found helped me as I have grown were:
- Research- this is important you need to read the myths associated with different Gods & Goddesses. What are their stories? What do they like? What offerings were given to them? What are their specialties; like Isis has been seen as a mother Goddess, Sedna can help with grief and abandonment. Hekate is good for inner shadow work & spirit work.
- Synchronicity- sometimes you'll do research and then all of a sudden a God or Goddess will show up all over the place, outside of the internet. I'll give you an example the Goddess Lakshmi; she showed up at a new age festival i went too, then at my job her name was incorporated into the name of someone I had to deal with, then later i signed on the internet and I saw her oracle card posted by someone I follow.
- Meditations & Journey work- this to me was vital because that is how we actually create a relationship with a spirit, guide, or Divine figure. So do meditation work & go within to meet with a God or Goddess that has called to you. This will help you know if the two of you are compatible.
- Devotional Work- once you have an idea of who your patron God or Goddess is then begin to do devotional work with them; light candles, say prayers, do mediation, do charity work in their name. When you do devotional work to them your relationship with them begins to deepen.
Overall, just like falling in love it's hard to explain it's something you know inside your soul. Others may not understand & that's okay. Remember the only authority to your spiritual practice is you no one else do not let others tell you what your spiritual practice should be like. As long as your not hurting yourself or others, it's all goooooood!